Is this abuse? I'm amazed at this situation.?

If it's not abuse, I don't know what else you'd call it!!! This man has some serious anger problems! To go berserk over the situations he's reacting to are certainly far from being anywhere normal. Honey, he's going to hurt you badly one of these times & I seriously mean he could permanently hurt you with the items he's throwing around. These are far from being "lite weight" items! I've been involved in two abusive marriages & have also gotten Restraining Orders for fear of being permanently hurt. Please, if you value your life, you MUST get him out of YOUR home. You so easily could just get a Restraining Order taken out on him & there's no way he would be able to contact you...no way!!! IF he did, the Police would take care of it all for you. You've got to think of yourself & your safety. I KNOW too well how abuse of every single kind is & what it does to a person. PLEASE for your own safety & your own sake, get him away from you. I too have the suspicion the ONLY way you're going to be able to get him out of your home is via Restraining Order. The Police & Judges are totally against Domestic Violence. This IS what you ARE dealing with...Just please please be safe....the best to you...:)